Dating someone that has been raped, never miss a mercury retrograde again.
I feel for you all and am humbled by the power of all your words. Also, she can't get help if she doesn't want help.
Upvoting posts that you like helps more people in the community see them. Every now and then I ask her what color she is, or if she freaks for any reason she'd say Red.
I felt like I picked myself up really well previously, but it that time I truly fell apart a little bit. Unlike most people i dont think you actually need advice. I am glad you are doing well too. I'm telling you about it and that's a key step in the trust department.
Loving or Having Sex with a Woman Who's Been Raped
There's something about true sincerity that opens up the dating someone, and the connection you make when you share that will make the pain of the past seem very distant. Second time she was drugged and she didnt piece together what happened until the next day.
She likely has a lot of guilt feelings that are associated with any intimacy, so make sure she feels valid when she's only been dating 3 weeks. She was put on an SSRI and was hooked up with a counselor.
Communication and understanding is the key.
Thoughtful, Meaningful Content
I always believed that because I was able to defend myself physically, I would be able to defend myself sexually, but that turned out not to be true. When it comes rape to facing evil, fight back.
I really want to thank everyone for the discussion and guilding me. Like if someone said to me my leg has been every time I put pressure on it I would say, "oh if that continues you should probably see a doctor.
I've remained mostly single since aside from the odd date here and there, I just can't find the motivation to commit. That summarizes my biggest issue as a rape survivor better than I've ever been able to. But I really am mostly fine.
Another rape victim I dated was a butch woman who had just adopted a kitten that completely befuddled her. I'm just not very familiar with the process and everything and would appreciate some perspective.
The reason we are splitting in my view was that he has been making feel guilty. Thank you for responding and as it has been a very stressful week for me I really needed to let this out.
Authors Shaver, Hazan and Bradshaw write the following about sexual desire: And if I ever complain about how I feel, it will be trite compared to the trauma that my girlfriend feels on a daily basis.
Women of reddit, I need your advice! Your thoughtfulness is noble and you'll need your own space to process your emotions about what she has been through and the impact it will have on the relationship.
Yes, I understand intimacy is important, but that can be accomplished in many other ways without intercourse. You're not doing anyone any favours that way. You're going to learn how to be gentle, to avoid the triggers, and how to make it a safe and lovely experience.
Because the sooner you see a crisis counselor the less likely you are to get post traumatic stress disorder.